Single-Dad

Becoming a single dad was one of the most traumatic events of my life. I did not want the divorce, I fought against the divorce, and ultimately I agreed to collaborative divorce and was taken to the cleaners by an ex who decided to go for the “divorce package” rather than honor our 50/50 shared parenting agreement.

pleasures ahead (a poem)

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 1, 2021
Post category:Dating Joy Love Poetry relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

a cup of coffee in the afternoon becomes a gateway to pleasures ahead and a hand to hold

Overloaded, Overshared, and Overwhelmed? Stop Input & Output

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 28, 2021
Post category:Dating Joy Love mindfulness relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

I let go, completely, I am supported by the answers from the universe. I am supported by the thoughtful response of my partner in whatever way they need to respond.

Heal Your Heart from Fear and Loss with Honest Vulnerability

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 28, 2021
Post category:Dating Depression Health and Fitness Joy Love mindfulness Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

If you are going to love deeply, you become more susceptible to fear. The more we come to depend on the reciprocal affection of another person the more put ourselves at risk of a painful loss should the relationship not work out. Even in our everyday relationships, caring deeply about someone comes with risks.

Time, The Currency of Modern Relationships: Either You Have It To Give

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 26, 2021
Post category:Anger Dating Divorce relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

Once you have decided to move on, you must understand that your former partner owes you nothing. Closure is a myth we like to "go for" in our breakups, but closure is up to us as individuals.

I Can’t Live With or Without You: A Curious Reemergence

seeking god in the cold waters of barton springs

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 21, 2021
Post category:Dating Depression Health and Fitness Joy Love mindfulness relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care Sex sexual chemistry Single-Dad Spirituality

I am shouting at the moon and telling the universe, "Here I am, fully awake and fully empowered. Show me a partner who can bring their empowered love to join with me."

Modern Courtship Online and Offline: What Do We All Want?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 20, 2021
Post category:Dating Joy Love Married Life Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

We don't want to be alone, but it's better than spending a lot of time on a partnership that is one-sided. A relationship requires both partners to be equally committed to the journey.

Burn the Maps! Forget What You Think You Know About Dating Today

burn the maps of what you know about dating

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 20, 2021
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

I am excited and terrified about the transformation that will occur when SHE shows up. And yet I am pushing towards her, calling her in, writing love poems to "HER." I can only imagine... And for now, that's all I've got. And these maps, which I will gladly set alight in her flame.