Single-Dad

Becoming a single dad was one of the most traumatic events of my life. I did not want the divorce, I fought against the divorce, and ultimately I agreed to collaborative divorce and was taken to the cleaners by an ex who decided to go for the “divorce package” rather than honor our 50/50 shared parenting agreement.

The Father Son Emotional Loop: Struggling As a Single Dad

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:June 10, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Divorce humans of divorce Parenting self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad

But, dear son, don't say "Sorry," when you are not sorry. Don't make excuses for not picking up the phone call and saying "I can't talk to you right now. Love you."

Looking to Get a Little Higher: Seeking Elevation & Immortality

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:June 7, 2022
Post category:Dating Depression Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

If I can be more conscious of my moments, my intake, and my decisions about rest vs. success, I can be happier with the body I have.

In This Moment You Choose: Happy or Resentful

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 31, 2022
Post category:Dating Depression Health and Fitness Love mindfulness Parenting self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad

Pay attention to your mind. When the monkey mind jumps into gear, try and find a moment to observe your thinking, as if you are an observer. Then decide: do I want to continue this runaway train of thought, or should I focus on something that I can actually have an effect on?

Finding Myself and My Body, Again

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 18, 2022
Post category:Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness mindfulness self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

What I need is a radical rethink of myself and a full-court press on fitness as a priority in my life.

Setting Priorities in Life: The Only Path Forward

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 13, 2022
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness mindfulness self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

As our little boat struggles forward my wife and I are co-captains. And we have an awesome little crew of kids, dogs, cats, and even fish. All attached via rigging and lifelines.

Big 5 Relationship Questions to Answer Before You Start Dating Again

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 13, 2022
Post category:Dating Joy Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

So let's make a pact, in our next round of dating "work" I want to commit to pursuing only the clear YES women. Everything else is a distraction. If I am interested in a relationship, that's going to take time, patience, perspective, and the right YES woman.

This Very Moment… This Is It… Stop… Smell the Roses… Give Thanks.

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 10, 2022
Post category:Depression Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness Money relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

Stay in alignment with your goal. Make sure your goal is aligned with your purpose. And then notice when things are going right for you.

How Do You Suffer the Fools and Jerks in Your Life?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:April 28, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Married Life mindfulness Money Parenting relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

She still cannot see how planting discontent on my kids towards me is hurting them more than it's hurting us. She is actively damaging her own relationship with her kids over MONEY.