Parenting is the biggest adventure you can set in motion. By becoming parents you are agreeing to give a priority to your children, over yourself. The sacrifice of becoming a parent is about making a better life for our kids.
As parents, our relationship may not work out. In divorce, we’ve got an opportunity to remain connected as a cooperative co-parent. Our role as divorced parents is to support our kids with less concern for ourselves or our disappointment in our ex-partner. It is important to leave your anger and frustration behind, and pay attention to your kids and their needs.
When divorce is amicable there's a chance for equal parenting. When a divorce starts with Dads getting 30% of the time and 100% of the expenses there is little incentive for moms to be fair.
It's as if Fox News got in the business of divorce, marriage, and relationship advice. You'd better check your sources.
When we started down the road of negotiating a cooperative divorce (because it's all about the children) our divorce and parenting plan counselor also suggested 70-30.
To say that my ex-wife was unhappy when she found my anonymous blog over 12 years ago would be an understatement. At this point, our kids were in elementary and…
If she doesn't' respond to my daughter, why would I think she's going to respond or even be friendly to me? I don't think about it much, anymore. It's so much more obvious as we now enter the 10th year of our co-parenting journey, that she really is a bit self-centered.
The imbalanced schedule they were assigned by my wife's actions, meant that I was going to be a marginal character in their lives.
If you don't do the work, you may remain stuck in the past. You may wrestle with the depression and demons of your parent's transgressions and lack of support.
It's not about the science of parenting and divorce. It's not "in the best interest of the children." It's about MONEY.