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Guidance and Direction Request from John of The Whole Parent

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 17, 2018
Post category:Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Joy Love Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

Hi, and thanks for being a reader of The Whole Parent. A lot has changed since I started this blog over 5-years ago. My life has been through so many…

Divorce Lessons: Thanks for the Jetpack, Where’s the Fuel?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 15, 2018
Post category:Anger Depression Divorce Health and Fitness Money Self-care Single-Dad

Divorce Lessons: Don't panic. You can make it through this. The first step, taken willingly or with a push, is the hardest. And after a while, even free fall won't be so terrifying.

It’s a Beautiful Day, and I’m Broke and a Working Deadbeat Dad

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 10, 2018
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Divorce humans of divorce Money Self-care Single-Dad

She is motivated by money. She divorced me when my earning power seemed unable to support her stay-at-home mom fantasy. She was a 10 - 20 hour a week worker. But she wanted me to return to the corporate machine, and I wanted to negotiate an alternate route.

Serenity with my Ex-wife Begins and Ends with Me

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 8, 2018
Post category:burn Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Money Parenting Relationships self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad

I may not reach serenity with my ex-wife and her new husband ever. That's okay. The serenity is within me. I am doing, have done, and will do the best I can to support my kids and keep my relationship to them above the fray my ex continues to keep seething around us.

My Miss Fortune – Taking Inventory of my First Two Marriages

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 8, 2018
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Love Married Life Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

Every day she doesn't release me from the AG's supervision is a day that I wake up and have to forgive her for acting and continuing to act on her fear.

Child Support Should Be Shared, Not Enforced: Gratitude Now

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 7, 2018
Post category:burn Co-Parenting Divorce Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

Divorce should start at 50/50. Shared custody. Shared bills. Shared hardships if one or more of the parents lose a job. Let the individual couples negotiate in Texas from that position, rather than the inequitable position we are presented with today.

You Should Go For What Makes You Happy (Divorce Me)

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:June 19, 2018
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Divorce Health and Fitness Joy Married Life Money Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

And so we divorced. I was not happy about it. And though I swear I'm moving on, I don't guess I will ever fully be OVER it. I mean, what am I doing tonight? Seeing if a date is going to materialize through the texts and emails I'm exchanging with someone from Match.com. And I'd rather be hanging with my kids: chatting about their day, their projects, their hopes and dreams. Much like the past five days of this dad-weekend.

If Divorce was a Game I Might Have Played to Win

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:June 8, 2018
Post category:Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Money Single-Dad

I'm not a men's rights activist but am a DADS LIVES MATTER advocate. This game is rigged and the courts know it, the wives know it, and the divorce attorney's who'd rather represent the moms, know it. But that's not the way it should be.