Joy Archives

Finding joy in your life is a big part of the plan.

I believe we have set points, but not of happiness, of joy. I know that even in moments of extreme grief I can feel joy. Joy is a pursuit. Joy is either a focus of your attention or not. It’s kind of like being positive, but it’s different.

Joy is different than happiness. Joy is part of our internal compass. You’ve got to find your own inner joy. It’s a big shift, this focus on inner joy and not outer happiness. I cannot control many of the aspects of my life. I am not always happy. But, I am learning to be always joyful.

Resilience, Self-Care, the Mindset of Joy in This Moment

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 17, 2021
Post category:Dating Depression Health and Fitness Joy Love mindfulness relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

It's not my will. It's not just my plans and actions. It's not my mindset. It's not my friends, family, or lovers.

Mindfulness in Here and Now: High-Fivin the Universe

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 14, 2021
Post category:Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

Today, I can say, I'm content and ambitious at the same time. I'm creatively alive and vibrant, without too much focus on the outcome. I write, I sing, I pray, for my own pleasure and enjoyment.

Five Reasons to Slow Your Roll when Dating: Sex and Dating

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 11, 2021
Post category:Co-Parenting Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

Live some life together, out of the bedroom, and see how the relationship part of the partnership goes. It will become obvious if there are lifestyle or emotional differences. And when you keep the raging hormones at bay you can see this person without the rose-colored glasses.

Do You Have a Laser Focus on What You Want In Your Next Lover?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 5, 2021
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Spirituality

Get out there, and get going. You're partner will be doing many of the same things. If it's meant to be, and you show up in full-power and full-glory, how can the two of you not see stars and generate a shower of sparks when you first meet?

pleasures ahead (a poem)

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 1, 2021
Post category:Dating Joy Love Poetry relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

a cup of coffee in the afternoon becomes a gateway to pleasures ahead and a hand to hold

Sexual Chemistry, Sexual Intelligence & Getting Ready to Get It On

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 30, 2021
Post category:Dating Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex sexual chemistry Spirituality

Having an orgasm for me, during sex, is a function of tuning into my partner's directions and hints and basking in the experience of feeling every inch of their body.

What Good Is Love If…

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 30, 2021
Post category:Anger Dating Depression Joy Love Married Life mindfulness relationship building Relationships Self-care

Love can heal your soul. Love can rip your soul apart. It is up to us to put our hearts back together and try again. If you learn each time you fail at love, you can get closer to finding and building a sustainable and loving relationship.

Overloaded, Overshared, and Overwhelmed? Stop Input & Output

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 28, 2021
Post category:Dating Joy Love mindfulness relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

I let go, completely, I am supported by the answers from the universe. I am supported by the thoughtful response of my partner in whatever way they need to respond.