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Conscious Connection, Intimacy, and Fun: Real Relationship Goals

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 25, 2022
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

There is absolutely no hurry. You have all the time you need. Spend time together. Spend time apart. Listen. Learn. And move forward.

Catching Up On My 11-Year Love Quest: Girlfriend Next

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 23, 2022
Post category:Dating Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life mindfulness Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality Third Glass Series

Home is inside me. Home with someone else is a horizon I knew I was losing in my divorce. After eleven years of seeking, perhaps I'm getting ready to rebuild a home with someone else.

Online Dating Is A Distraction: Expanding Opportunities Offline

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 23, 2022
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

I'm going to play the online dating game for a limited amount of time. I know it's a distraction. Browsing profiles online is NOT DATING. Get out there. Get into your best life and look for others around you doing the same thing. If a conversation comes up with a person of interest on Bumble or Match.com, great, but I'm not counting on the dating apps and sites to do anything for my love life. Let's get out and do what we love. I'll meet you there.

F2N Scale: Understanding Sex and Energy in Relationships

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 22, 2022
Post category:Anger Dating Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life mindfulness relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Spirituality

By resetting our expectations about sex just a little (when we both have the energy) we can count on a more engaged and spontaneous partner. You can't be present when you're drowsy.

The 1/3 Parent: How Your State’s Family Law Is Harming Your Kids

father daughter relationship after divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 19, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

After 11-years, my child support has been paid and my two children have launched from their mom's house. I am rebuilding for time lost with some success. What I lost I can never regain. What I can hope for is that my future years are going to be the best part of my relationship with my two kids.

Finding Balance in a World Addicted to Getting High

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 17, 2022
Post category:Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

I alone am responsible for how I navigate each day of my life. My care team comes into play when I have questions or need a fresh perspective on what I'm struggling with. Make sure you've got people around you that you can contact when you need them.

The Divorce Equation: Please Consider the Lawyer’s Proposal

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 15, 2022
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Depression humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life Parenting Single-Dad Spirituality

It will take a long time for me to rebuild my relationship with the kids, but I will. And they will know the story of this angry divorce saga over time. They will ask about "what happened?" They will ask about the lies.

Reversing the Flow: Letting Women Lead More of the Courtship

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 14, 2022
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness humans of divorce relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

I'm alone. Fine. I'm retooling. I'm in a progression of rebuilding a number of things in my life that are (at this moment) more important than a relationship. When I'm in hunter mode I don't see things as clearly.