When Hopelessness Enters the Equation
I don't want to be alone. I knew this most deeply when my marriage was breaking up and I was losing not only my best friend and wife, but my…
The Low-Conflict Divorce Hustle: What You Don’t Know Will Hurt You
Equal parenting is how we started this whole "kids" thing. Don't you think equal parenting is how we should finish it? My then-wife went to see an attorney during the…
What I Imagined About the Coming Divorce: The Loss Was Worse
Today, as my kids are teenagers, they have made the decision to live with their mom full-time. It's okay. It makes their lives easier. Packing and shuttling to my house…
Self-Care and Fitness: How You Treat Yourself Says More than You Think
Let's talk about self-care for a minute. How well do you care for yourself? Do you have any nagging injuries you are putting off going to to the doctor about?…
Empty Nest Syndrome: How a Typical Divorce Affects Fathers Differently
The Divorce Brochure fails to mention is that once you've crossed over this bridge you can never turn back. This morning it will be 10 days since I saw my…
What Went Down: Divorce is Not Kind. Co-parenting is a Myth.
The biggest blow in my divorce has been my ex-wife's decision to not co-parent with me. Let's get real. Two people agree to have kids and a huge shift happens…
A Pleasant First Date and the Change of Seasons Arrives
In the spaces between relationships, we get to know ourselves again. It is a "rainy days and Mondays" kind of a day here. I'm feeling the feels. And aware of…
Dads: When Family Courts Start at 70 – 30 Custody, the Kids Lose
When we started down the road of negotiating a cooperative divorce (because it's all about the children) our divorce and parenting plan counselor also suggested 70-30.
