Dating

Dating is like a gateway drug. You’ve got to “date” in order to find a partner. If you are not clear on what you want in a relationship, dating is going to bring you a lot of people who are not ready, not available, and not very evolved. The goal of dating is to find someone to love.

For some, online dating is the gateway to finding someone who is outside of our normal spheres of influence. The first step is introductions. Then a few dates to see if you’re still compatible. And at some point, you’re going to declare each other as boyfriend and girlfriend. At that point, you are officially dating. Everything up to that is courtship and “hello dates.”

I’ve had success with online dating. I also see much of the online activity as a waste of time. If you’re not going out on “hello dates” you’re really just playing at the idea of dating. Find me somebody to love. Let’s get to a first date and see where things go. We can’t get to relationships unless we are testing and trying things while dating.

We want to keep improving with each dating experience. It takes time. There will be hits and misses along the dating journey. If you have a strategy you can work the dating system quicker to find better matches.

Relationships Questions: When You End Up Alone, Again

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 29, 2023
Post category:Dating Divorce Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

If I am happy alone, creating and aspiring with all the time available to me. Perhaps, I need to look for another creative person, who has similar creative impulses.

Why Is Online Dating So Hard?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 23, 2023
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love Relationships Self-care Sex

Perhaps imagining the right person is facilitated by online dating because we get to see how flexible and adaptive our sense of attraction is. But in reality, the real connections are walking right in front of us, we've just got to be better at saying "hello."

17 Simple Ways to Say “I Love You”

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 22, 2023
Post category:Dating Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

It's the little things that signal to another person how much you care about them. Sure the big things are more important, but it's the little things that get you there.

How Big Love is Healing Those Around Us

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 21, 2023
Post category:Anger Dating Depression Drinking Health and Fitness Love relationship building self-awareness sexual chemistry

"You didn't cause it, you can't cure it, and you can't change it." Focus on yourself and what's inside your hula hoop.

The Joy of Divorce and the 3 Gifts of Breaking Up

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 21, 2023
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

What I do best in life is love. And that I have been given a gift for sharing that experience via writing and music, is one of the major wins in my life. This new lease on love is another. May you find what you were looking for. May you find the happiness that comes from within so you can share it with others. The divorce gave me back my joy and freedom and allowed me a second chance to find life-long love.

Dating Lessons: All This Swiping Feels a Bit Demeaning

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 15, 2023
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

I have moved into the bedroom too quickly the last two times out. Both relationships taught me huge valuable lessons. And both relationships fulfilled some emptiness I was carrying around when we got together.

Self-Care and Fitness: How You Treat Yourself Says More than You Think

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 10, 2023
Post category:Dating Depression Health and Fitness Love mindfulness Self-care Single-Dad

I am just where I need to be. I can make better choices when I have a choice. It is important that I plan ahead for my food, exercise, and sleep. It is up to me to be healthier, fitter, and adequately rested.