Dating Tips for Modern Adults: Texts, Facebook, Profiles, Phone Calls
You need to get your communications strategy in place. And then if the other person has a different pace or different style you can figure out how to adjust.
You need to get your communications strategy in place. And then if the other person has a different pace or different style you can figure out how to adjust.
I didn't need a horrible family life to get my act together. That's what happened in my childhood, and this is who I am as a result, but it might have been different. Let me take a run at having a relationship that starts out with a healthy bias rather than one of recovery and repressed emotions.
I know myself "in a relationship" as a man who is satisfied and settled. I am no longer driven by the energetic part of the sex-brain that is hunting for attractive and available women. When I have a relationship to lean into I can settle down into my life's work that is about more important things.
I can still have those lusty feelings, recognize them for what they are, appreciate the woman who triggered them, and the move on with my life as I am rebuilding it.
At the moment I am in a perfect relationship. I wake up , go to sleep, nap, walk, play tennis, write... all that, I do all those things without considering another soul. I am in love with myself.
You've gotta get out there to get over yourself. It's in the relating to a real woman in a real setting that things might become interesting.
Alone I am able to focus on these thing without distraction. I have no other pulls on my time and energy. Alone my general state is happy. But I long for a lover and companion.
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