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Dating a Single Dad and Learning to Love His Kids

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 5, 2021
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Divorce humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life Money Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

Dating a single parent can be a lot like struggling with a toddler. They punch you in the eye, spill juice in your bed, and say, "I love you SOOO much."

The Power of Saying No: Making Self-Care a Priority Now

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 3, 2021
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life mindfulness Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

I am making plans to say no more often. I will listen to my heart more often, I will pause before making difficult decisions, I will pause and check in with my body frequently throughout the day.

The Loss of Kid-time Has Been the Biggest Source of Pain in My Life

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 2, 2020
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Love Married Life Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

In the nine and a half years since the divorce, I have seen my daughter approximately 8 days to every 22 days that my ex-wife gets to see her. This arrangement seems to support the idea that the mom is the primary caregiver in the family, or that moms deserve the majority of the children's time.

How Men Carry the Emotional Load of Parenting Differently Than Women

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:December 27, 2019
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Love Married Life Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

I believe we cannot heal from our divorce/relationship trauma without getting back into the ring and giving it another go. Only IN RELATIONSHIP can we learn how to be healthy in a relationship.

Encouraging News About Online Dating from One of the Good Guys

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:December 13, 2019
Post category:Dating Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

If you are not overtly focused on finding your next long-term relationship, by all means, play around in the online dating pool. Learn some skills. Kiss some frogs. But when you get serious about finding a partner, well, set your intentions and your standards a lot higher.

You’re Not the Only One Who Doesn’t Want to Be Alone Tonight

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:December 12, 2019
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

What I really want is to find a partner who is able to express love and joy easily. And then, over time, I want to continuously fall in love with her, every day. I want to celebrate our victories. I want to soothe the difficulties. And I want to feel loved, above all else,

Letting Go of Dreams Update – Celebrating The Whole Parent Year Six

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 2, 2019
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Joy Love Married Life Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

Divorce is not something you just "get over." And with kids, you never really get over it. I am learning to continuously forgive and forge ahead with my own life as a single dad.

The Joyful Woman is Nearby, I’ve Seen Her

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 21, 2018
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Joy Relationships Single-Dad

Let's find the lighter path together. And if we find ourselves walking along it together, and continually renewing our intentions to get together again, maybe that's enough. I'm really ready for the "ready and centered" woman to show up.