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Dads After Divorce: Never Give Up (But) Do Stop Fighting

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:April 9, 2024
Post category:Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

As we move forward as "this half" of the family, I am certain that my best time with my kids is ahead of me. And that's all the good news you need to hear today. Keep going.

Mindful Resistance: Doing Less Frequently

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:April 5, 2024
Post category:humans of divorce mindfulness Poetry Self-care Spirituality

Then my divorce happened. I went from fat and happy to fat and homeless in a matter of months. My writing ignited.

How Does True Love Unfold? The Early Harbingers of YES

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 27, 2024
Post category:Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

Only through adventuring together, only through giving it a 100% shot and not holding back, are we capable of discovering a partner who is willing and capable of going there with us.

Finding Peace at the Edge of the Unknown: Stoking Your Soul Fire

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 12, 2024
Post category:Anger Dating Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness Money Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

You deserve a great life. You deserve a huge bonfire of love and happiness. The Sparks are right inside you. The kindling of your life and the power of your attention are all you need to light your fire. Light it.

I Am Not the Problem in the Co-parenting Relationship, We Are

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 31, 2023
Post category:burn Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness Married Life Parenting Relationships Self-care

I am sad sometimes that I no longer have a partner and cheerleader in navigating these difficult times. But that role/relationship ended several years before the marriage did. And now I have two fabulous kids and their mom.

Getting Good At Blameless Breakups: Online Dating Challenges

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 31, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Love mindfulness Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

The goal is never to blame the other person for the breakup, even if they were the reason you are breaking up. Always take your responsibility for the miss. And make it about the chemistry, the mix, the overall relationship and not about them or their poor behavior. Remember, you are leaving the relationship, not trying to teach them a lesson or educate them.

Love Is… Love is Not… How Do We Find and Keep Love?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 25, 2023
Post category:Dating Relationships Self-care Sex sexual chemistry

Growing together is hard. There will be bumps in the road. Even your perfect partner may appear less evolved and you might be tempted to return to the swiping apps. Don't.

Finding Meaning in the Mindfulness of Life

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 13, 2023
Post category:Health and Fitness Love mindfulness self-awareness Self-care Spirituality

If you can attach prayer and ritual to these ancient minerals and their "energetic" purpose, you are creating your own modern-day ritual. A ritual of affirmation, love, and hope.