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The Struggles and Fears About Divorce: Humans of Divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 21, 2019
Post category:Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

When I get in a tough place I try and picture my kid's faces. In the moment I am feeling upset, I can send them a "How's it going, I love you" text. I can SnapChat a silly face.

Letting Go of Dreams Update – Celebrating The Whole Parent Year Six

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 2, 2019
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Joy Love Married Life Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

Divorce is not something you just "get over." And with kids, you never really get over it. I am learning to continuously forgive and forge ahead with my own life as a single dad.

80% of Single Moms Will Never Understand a Single Dad’s Struggle

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 5, 2019
Post category:Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Joy Married Life Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

Divorce is painful enough. Let's all share the pain equally and stop putting dads in the straightjacket of the SPO and the typical child support agreement.

Nine Years Into My Divorce: Finding My Single Parenting Superpower

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:June 16, 2019
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Love Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

While my co-parenting efforts have been shunned by my ex-wife, I have never failed to ask to be included in all parenting decisions. It's in our parenting plan, the one we both signed when we agreed to our divorce documents. Even when my co-parent refuses to co-parent, I can be a great co-parent. My kids deserve it. My ex is frustrated by it. And I am at peace with it.

Humans of Divorce: Why Child Support Should Be Cooperative

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:June 11, 2019
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

I often pontificate that my ex-wife is angry because she didn't get the happiness she imagined by moving her cheese from one man to a different man. She got everything she wanted in the divorce: the house, the child support payment + insurance for the kids, and the 70/30 parenting schedule, and still she's not happy.

You Are Loved: A Meditation on Self-love and Self-awareness

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 22, 2019
Post category:Depression Health and Fitness Joy Love mindfulness self-awareness Self-care Spirituality

Hold yourself in the highest regard. When you try these affirmations, listen to what comes back from your own thoughts. If there are contradictions, be gentle with them. Be gentle with yourself.