the heart is an odd engine : a poem
i do love the snow and you the drifting spin of lazy white flakes putting me at ease
Online Dating Refresh: Can We Start Over?
I quickly and clearly expressed my change of plans and released them back into the stream of possibilities. Get clear on your dating goals. And if you need someone to talk to about all of this crazy mess, I'm here.
Online Dating Optimized – The Next Chapter of Dating After a Breakup
In a seemingly random and brutal series of events, my life began a transformative reorientation. I was praying as hard as I could. I was working an entry-level job (that I loved by the way) at a local specialty grocery store, and... horror of all horrors was/am living with my 85 yo, mom.
The Trouble with Alcohol: She Likes To Drink, I Don’t (Or Didn’t…)
If she drinks the third glass I begin looking for what I'm going to do that evening when she's fallen asleep. If she asks for water, my mind enters into a different set of fantasies that involve her participation. The real joy is that we've had this discussion.
I Cannot Fix Your Broken Wings, I’m Still Repairing Mine
In a relationship that is not quite right, we (I am) are constantly on guard for things to begin going wrong. And either you work through those issues together or you don't. And if you don't you will be miserable trying to stay together. Better to move on.
The Joyful Woman is Nearby, I’ve Seen Her
Let's find the lighter path together. And if we find ourselves walking along it together, and continually renewing our intentions to get together again, maybe that's enough. I'm really ready for the "ready and centered" woman to show up.
A Moment of Silence, Followed By… (checking-in on holiday depression)
Patience is not my nature, but it's probably my path forward. Jumping into a relationship that has big red flags is most definitely a path towards drama and disconnections.
The Coffee Date Fail: A First “Hello” from a Bumble Sweetheart
It was a beautiful morning, I was hopeful and ready for coffee and conversation with a new woman. A woman I’d courted online for several weeks. A woman who inspired some sense of sexual interest in her online profile and then actually responded to one of my emails.