She doesn't need to force me into a plan. And I don't need to buck against her plan or freak out when it hasn't been put forth. We are indeed already married in every way but two.
What do you need to cut the tether attaching you to this bag of these BULLSHIT-LIES you keep telling yourself? Write them down. Identify the "little black bastards" pulling you down.
Join your partner in all the ways you can. Time together doing things you both love is time together IN LOVE. That's how it works.
Share your bed, but keep your own bedroom. That way there is no blurring of the boundaries while you are still trying to figure out the basics of the relationship.
I want a woman who is emotionally available, mature, and ready for a relationship. In some cases, what's happenend in my past, is getting too far down the sexual chemistry and hot sex before I've had a chance to understand the long-term compatibility and potential of this partner.
If we find ourselves walking along together, and continually renewing our intentions to get together again, maybe that's enough. I'm really ready for the "ready and centered" woman to show up.
I work with men and women who are looking to reset their priorities in life to align more with their long-term goals. What's keeping you from achieving your dreams? What parts of your life need attention?
I simply let go and pay little or no attention to the things that are out of my control. What I have control over, I manage with greater joy and energy.