What does it look like when you are happy? What are you doing? If your best case scenario involves continuing to do that (play tennis, in my case) then perhaps you need to look into participating more. The apps are okay for spreading your reach and resetting your ambition, but you need to be doing your dream first, then the right person might come along beside you on a bike ride and say, "Hello."
It is time to evaluate all of the relationships in your life and set boundaries and priorities with each of them. Some people will need to be removed.
How you define your boundaries early in the relationship is how you will relate to each other for the duration. If you cross boundaries and violate minor issues of trust, you will break the fragile bond that is forming between the two of you, even before the first fibers of love have begun to form and enmesh.
She doesn't need to force me into a plan. And I don't need to buck against her plan or freak out when it hasn't been put forth. We are indeed already married in every way but two.
What do you need to cut the tether attaching you to this bag of these BULLSHIT-LIES you keep telling yourself? Write them down. Identify the "little black bastards" pulling you down.
Join your partner in all the ways you can. Time together doing things you both love is time together IN LOVE. That's how it works.
Share your bed, but keep your own bedroom. That way there is no blurring of the boundaries while you are still trying to figure out the basics of the relationship.
I want a woman who is emotionally available, mature, and ready for a relationship. In some cases, what's happenend in my past, is getting too far down the sexual chemistry and hot sex before I've had a chance to understand the long-term compatibility and potential of this partner.