Six Masterclass Lessons on Divorce: Finding a Light After the Loss

Always ask for what you need. Your partner cannot read your mind. And that angry look your giving them may not convey what you're hoping to convey. Talk about it. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt.

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The Loss of Kid-time Has Been the Biggest Source of Pain in My Life

In the nine and a half years since the divorce, I have seen my daughter approximately 8 days to every 22 days that my ex-wife gets to see her. This arrangement seems to support the idea that the mom is the primary caregiver in the family, or that moms deserve the majority of the children's time.

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Reflecting On My Ex-wife’s Rage Nine Years After the Divorce She Wanted

So she's mad. She got what she wanted and she's still mad. Oh, and I'm still writing. I guess that's the hot poker that is still painfully inserted and irremovable.

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The Approaching Storm Before the Divorce: It Wasn’t One Thing

I'll stay out of her business and assessing her state of mind. But there's a good bit of the story that is left out when I take this repose about my divorce. It was a good thing given the toxic circumstances of my crumbling marriage. So in that respect, yes, she did us all a favor. But let's dig a bit deeper to see where things went foul.

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I Know My Depression Frightens You: It’s Okay, We’re In This Together

Do you get frustrated when you're not in the highly-functional and kicking-ass zone? I am happiest when I'm in the 6's and 7's. But I'm learning to love myself even when I'm in the 3's.

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Men and Divorce with Children: My 9-year Retrospective

I suppose a pound of flesh is tasty when it is grilled over a flame of resentment and anger. She is acting out of spite and vitriol at this point. Again, she got what she wanted and she still came after me with the AG's office.

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Letting Go of Dreams Update – Celebrating The Whole Parent Year Six

Divorce is not something you just "get over." And with kids, you never really get over it. I am learning to continuously forgive and forge ahead with my own life as a single dad.

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Returning to the Scene of the Crime: Nostalgia and Lessons Learned

Each time I let myself reenter the sad times, the sad places, and let my soul feel the wear and tear of the hard and long journey, I begin to heal those old times.

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