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Gratitude Resets Your Attitude – Just Say YES!

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 26, 2021
Post category:Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

Say YES to all the things that give you joy. Invitations, even when you are not feeling all that great, say YES.

Everything is Beautiful and Painful: Top Three Relationship Rules

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 30, 2021
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Married Life Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

When I was younger and my parents began to struggle with a long protracted divorce, I begged for Jesus/God to help them stay together. I prayed all the time for my dad to stop killing himself with alcohol and cigarettes.

A Radical Approach to Joy

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 9, 2021
Post category:Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness Joy Love mindfulness Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

I can. I am. And I am learning to be better to myself. I'm good with others. I have compassion, empathy, and support for just about any struggle my friends or family are going through. But when I look at myself and my failures, I'm often harsh and shaming.

Porcupine Mode: Expressing Dissatisfaction In Your Relationship

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 23, 2021
Post category:burn Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Love Married Life Parenting Relationships self-awareness Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

What ended up happening when I pushed on the broken parts of the relationship is she began to exit emotionally and avoid any opportunities to be alone, where we might have time to discuss what was going on. She took to falling asleep in the kid's beds rather than returning to me.

The Power of Saying No: Making Self-Care a Priority Now

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 3, 2021
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life mindfulness Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

I am making plans to say no more often. I will listen to my heart more often, I will pause before making difficult decisions, I will pause and check in with my body frequently throughout the day.

There She Goes Again: Limitless Desire for a New Partner

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 2, 2020
Post category:Dating Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

But, with each of my last three relationships, I learned some fundamental truths about myself in a relationship. I am not surprised that dating has little or no allure. I had such a wonderful partner. I learned what if felt like to be loved with abandon and openness. And I learned how far I could go before I broke down over the disconnections that continued to happen.

Relationship Building Skills & Wisdom: BRAVING & The Four Agreements

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:December 10, 2019
Post category:Anger Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love Married Life relationship building Relationships Self-care

My job, as your partner, is to let you off the hook when I can, to hold you accountable when I can't, and to make distinctions about the difference.

Dad’s Divorce Journey: 9-years Later I Still Feel the Loss of Kid-time

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 15, 2019
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Joy Love Married Life Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

As I licked my wounds alone, I could only imagine the parties that were still going on in my old house. The bathtime fun, the friends over on the weekends, the breakfast and dinner routines. Time. That is the real loss in a divorce. My ex-wife got most of it. I got the dregs on alternating weekends.