Our Response to Someone Else is 100% Up to Us: Choose the Positive

I have to let go of what I wanted the divorce to look like. I have to let go of the part of me that wanted to remain close as co-parents and celebrate our children's victories and rally around them in their discomforts. Today, I cannot do this.

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Six Masterclass Lessons on Divorce: Finding a Light After the Loss

Always ask for what you need. Your partner cannot read your mind. And that angry look your giving them may not convey what you're hoping to convey. Talk about it. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt.

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The Irreconcilably Irritating Present And How to Find Peace in It

I like to drive fast. This is a constant opportunity to tap into the irritating nature of the present moment. As I want to go fast (both in the car and in my life) I am always pushing up against the slower cars of the rapidly growing population of our fair city.

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From Dating to Love: Either Show Up 100% of the Time, Or You’re Gone

I believe the quest for love is a spiritual journey. Either your deliberate and intentional about it, or you are just screwing around.

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The Divorce Gender Bias: Men Need to Be Considered Equally in Divorce

Today, I'd like you to consider that both parents are equally important in their kids' lives. And then I'd like you to promise to act accordingly for the rest of your lives as parents.

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