Single-Dad

Becoming a single dad was one of the most traumatic events of my life. I did not want the divorce, I fought against the divorce, and ultimately I agreed to collaborative divorce and was taken to the cleaners by an ex who decided to go for the “divorce package” rather than honor our 50/50 shared parenting agreement.

I Am Holding My Breath: A Wonderful Pause Along My Divorce Recovery

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 2, 2023
Post category:Dating Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

Your future is in creating the secure attachment you've always wanted and deserved.

You Saw the Red Flags, Right? Why We Lean In When We Should Leave

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 1, 2023
Post category:Dating Drinking Health and Fitness Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

I'm sensing some sort of "shoe ready to drop" but it's all in my mind at this point. It's like PTSD from my past relationships. I don't really recognize when I meet a healthy partner.

A Dad’s Path After Divorce Is Hard and Lonely

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 1, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Married Life Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

I lost everything in that moment. I lost my fighting spirit. I agreed to the Standard Possession Order (SPO) schedule and I agreed to let my wife be the custodial parent.

What I Learned About Sex: It’s Almost All In Your Mind

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 31, 2023
Post category:Dating Depression Health and Fitness Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

Know what does it for you and being able to show or tell your partner is a key ingredient for evolved sex. As we can let go of traditional SEX as the goal and open up to the full range of erotic experiences, we can expand our pleasure and our sexual vocabularies.

Losing the Meaning of Life As My Marriage Blasted Me Out of the House

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 28, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

Divorce is not the end of the world. However, it's often the end of most dad's major bonding and influence with his kids. Most divorces end with dads being marginalized by the family court precedents.

Divorce Retrospective: Getting This Off My Chest

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 26, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Parenting self-awareness Single-Dad

I walk away from this story knowing I did everything I could to keep the marriage alive. And after the divorce, I've done everything I can (outside of shutting down my writing) to be a good father, a good man, and a reasonable person.

Single Dad 2 – Vindictive Ex-Wife 0

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 24, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Divorce Parenting Single-Dad

What you can do, is support your kids with all of your heart and mind. And, in this case, when the other parent poops out and is too self-absorbed, you can step in and be the solid presence in your kids' lives.