Self-care Archives

The Fear of Divorce: Are You Holding On When You Should Let Go?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 2, 2019
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Joy Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

She has played all her trump cards and she's still not happy. She's remarried and she's still not happy. She might not ever be happy. That's no longer my problem.

Online Dating Advice Index: Get Over Yourself

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:June 28, 2019
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

Don't give up. Just because all of your previous relationships have failed, does not mean that the next date might be The One.

The Major Downsides of Dating a Single Dad: YourTango Dating Advice

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:June 26, 2019
Post category:Dating Divorce Health and Fitness Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

This whole article tees men up as potential "dating opportunities." There is NOTHING ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP in the entire post. It's about the dad's relationship with his kids and their mom.

Divorce, Depression, and the Puzzlement of My Ex-wife

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:June 24, 2019
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Health and Fitness Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

I hope she's happy. It doesn't seem like that's the case, but what do I know? I only know that she's shirking on her responsibility to be an available parent to my daughter. That's okay, I guess. That's where I step in as an available parent.

Dear Ex, I Will Forgive You, But I Will Never Forget What You Did

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:June 20, 2019
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Dating Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life Money Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

I don't think my ex-wife or my ex-girlfriend derived any positive benefits from attacking me. And perhaps, their momentary feeling of superiority and vindictiveness was worth the price. But both these women attacked me and took actions to hurt me and my future prospects.

Nine Years Into My Divorce: Finding My Single Parenting Superpower

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:June 16, 2019
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Love Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

While my co-parenting efforts have been shunned by my ex-wife, I have never failed to ask to be included in all parenting decisions. It's in our parenting plan, the one we both signed when we agreed to our divorce documents. Even when my co-parent refuses to co-parent, I can be a great co-parent. My kids deserve it. My ex is frustrated by it. And I am at peace with it.

Deadbeat… < What's the First Word That Came to Mind?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:June 13, 2019
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Divorce Married Life Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

With one phone call, my ex-wife could take the jackboot of the AG's office off my credit and financial life. But why would she do that? In some universe, my ex-wife still feels justified in turning me over to the AG's office for collections.

Humans of Divorce: Why Child Support Should Be Cooperative

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:June 11, 2019
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

I often pontificate that my ex-wife is angry because she didn't get the happiness she imagined by moving her cheese from one man to a different man. She got everything she wanted in the divorce: the house, the child support payment + insurance for the kids, and the 70/30 parenting schedule, and still she's not happy.