Removing Connections: Giving Up On Closure
Maybe we would feel something. Perhaps we would experience regret, joy, sadness, and other deep feelings. It's okay not to want to dip back into it.
Maybe we would feel something. Perhaps we would experience regret, joy, sadness, and other deep feelings. It's okay not to want to dip back into it.
I don't want a relationship with the 20-something in my cardio tennis workout, but I can appreciate her. It's as simple as that.
Only through learning from past mistakes will you be able to evolve into the dating partner you want to become.
I'm just as dog-like and happy as I've ever been. I'm cultivating my Frodo-like personality traits. I'm also well aware of my somewhat unbalanced need to be loved by everyone.
Not everything needs to be worked out all the time. And, for the most part, I can trigger unhappy feelings for you, but the deep sadness or anger you feel, is probably not because of me.
One of my kids is thrilled to stay in touch with me. We FaceTime most days. I offer them support and advice. My other kid only reaches out, or even responds to my texts, when they want money.
If you've got time ahead, and you're committed to the partnership, you have plenty of time to get the details right, if you stay on the path toward togetherness and building the "WE."
My process has continued to be one of mindful awareness, occasional medication, and a good care team of loving people around me.