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Relationship Timing and the Fragility of a True Connection

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 11, 2017
Post category:Dating relationship building Relationships self-awareness Single-Dad

Alone I am able to focus on these thing without distraction. I have no other pulls on my time and energy. Alone my general state is happy. But I long for a lover and companion.

Our Thin Threads of Love: Weaving a Pattern of Greatness Together

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 5, 2017
Post category:Dating Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce relationship building Relationships self-awareness sexual chemistry

We are complex individuals with independent lives, building bridges and rope swings between our two countries, but we're reconnecting and recommitting in each moment, each day. We seek new ways around common disagreements, new ways to navigate old ghosts that can haunt us from previous relationships.

Divorce Lessons: If What You Want Is Love That Lasts

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 24, 2016
Post category:Divorce humans of divorce Joy Married Life self-awareness Single-Dad

Do things you love to do and as the other person to join you. Join the other person in the things they like to do. Watch and learn how each of you deals with hardships and see if you can find a supportive way to remain close and connected.

Coming Full Circle: One Dad’s Divorce Recovery

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 20, 2014
Post category:Depression Divorce humans of divorce mindfulness Parenting self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad

And I am happy for the healing in my family that has come from flipping all the negatives of divorce on their ass and finding the way back to love. Everything in my life is about love. And the love and support of my kids comes before all of my own needs and goals.

The Rest of Our Lives Loving the Same Person

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 23, 2014
Post category:Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Married Life Parenting relationship building Relationships self-awareness Single-Dad

I have no way of knowing what would've happened had she not asked for a divorce. I was certainly not happy with our relationship, but I was committed and confident that we would find our stride again. I was certain that the financial issues and struggles, for both of us, around work and money and shared efforts could be worked out. Nothing was as important as my marriage. Nothing.

Father, My Father: Forgiving My Dad and Myself

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:June 13, 2014
Post category:Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Love Parenting self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

And as I forgive my father for his loss of control and family, for the divorce, and for not taking care of himself long enough to see me and my kids. Today, I forgive him, but I am also learning to forgive myself for the failure of my marriage.

and they are gone (a poem)

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 12, 2013
Post category:Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Parenting Poetry self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

i may never understand the full loss for all of us i may never quit saying i'm sorry even to myself and the cat and dog

Listening to the Little Man Inside, Healing Our Hearts

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 6, 2013
Post category:Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Parenting self-awareness Single-Dad

What I can do as a dad is heal my own Little Man inside and give a place for my son's Little Man to get expressed and released. That will come later. But I know that I am doing everything to show up for MY little man as he grows into a young man and on.