Love and War: Learning to Fight Well and then Rejoin Well
If either participant becomes too overwhelmed (anger, sadness, hopelessness) it's time to take a break.
Relationships take a lot of work. Dating, online dating, and courtship all have one goal, to give us a Relationship to thrive in. It is hard to find a healthy, attractive, and willing partner. When you do, what happens next is the most important part. I work on relationship-building as a skill set. How can I be a better partner? How can I say with this person for life?
If either participant becomes too overwhelmed (anger, sadness, hopelessness) it's time to take a break.
Once the connection is established and reality-testing routines have been operating for a few weeks, it might be time to give in to the optimism that says YES to everything and anything.
As single parents, I believe, that my kids and my connection to them are more important (just for this short period of time) than my happiness or my new relationship.
How can we make divorce part of an evolution towards happiness for all parties involved? I have been writing about and coaching single parents for five years. (A single parent…
If I am happy alone, creating and aspiring with all the time available to me. Perhaps, I need to look for another creative person, who has similar creative impulses.
Stress, money issues, and emotional troubles are all part of the parenting life. Both parents must evolve beyond being Mom and Dad into who they want to become.
Perhaps imagining the right person is facilitated by online dating because we get to see how flexible and adaptive our sense of attraction is. But in reality, the real connections are walking right in front of us, we've just got to be better at saying "hello."
It's the little things that signal to another person how much you care about them. Sure the big things are more important, but it's the little things that get you there.