What You Need to Learn About Relationships, How Online Dating Helps
Only through learning from past mistakes will you be able to evolve into the dating partner you want to become.
Relationships take a lot of work. Dating, online dating, and courtship all have one goal, to give us a Relationship to thrive in. It is hard to find a healthy, attractive, and willing partner. When you do, what happens next is the most important part. I work on relationship-building as a skill set. How can I be a better partner? How can I say with this person for life?
Only through learning from past mistakes will you be able to evolve into the dating partner you want to become.
Today is the day. This is the moment. This post signals the last moment of denial. I am in charge of my own thinking, my own mood management, and my own path forward.
I'm just as dog-like and happy as I've ever been. I'm cultivating my Frodo-like personality traits. I'm also well aware of my somewhat unbalanced need to be loved by everyone.
Not everything needs to be worked out all the time. And, for the most part, I can trigger unhappy feelings for you, but the deep sadness or anger you feel, is probably not because of me.
By allowing you to experience and process your own distress, without my interference, I am giving you the utmost respect. I am viewing you as whole, strong, and capable. And in my affirmation of you and your inherent ability to be strong and sufficient, I am reaffirming my belief in you.
My motto for dealing with my ex-wife and her anger: Focus on your children. Love your children.
Give your partner the ravishing they are longing for and you might get your connection needs met at the same time. A win-win.
It's hard when you're on the receiving end of someone else's trigger. But we can get better at identifying our own triggers and triggered moments. And there are ways to help our partners notice when the rage or sadness that is coming out of them, might be a bit bigger or deeper than the infraction that caused the initial pain.