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When Divorce Negotiations Start at 70 – 30 Custody, the Kids Lose

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 21, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

When we started down the road of negotiating a cooperative divorce (because it's all about the children) our divorce and parenting plan counselor also suggested 70-30.

Loving You Every Day of Your Life: A Father’s Journey Thru Divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 22, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Money Parenting Single-Dad

If you don't do the work, you may remain stuck in the past. You may wrestle with the depression and demons of your parent's transgressions and lack of support.

My Kids and How Dads Don’t Give Up After Divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 11, 2023
Post category:Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

It's not about the science of parenting and divorce. It's not "in the best interest of the children." It's about MONEY.

Why Entitlements In Divorce Are Abusive

my daughter a few years after the divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:December 17, 2022
Post category:burn Co-Parenting Dating Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Money Parenting Single-Dad

Marriage and parenting start at 50/50. Divorce should start at 50/50 without child support, and negotiate from there.

What I Want My Kids to Know About Our Divorce 12 Years Later

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 9, 2022
Post category:Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Joy Married Life mindfulness Money Parenting Single-Dad Spirituality

I am here. I am your dad. And I love you just as much now as I did the moment I helped you out of your mom's body. The best of our lives together is ahead of us.

10 Years as a Whole Parent: 50/50 Shared Parenting Vision

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 11, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Married Life Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

My kids would've gotten a better version of me. We would've stayed a bit closer as a family, even after I left, because the bills would all be split. And my house would've been just as comfortable as mom's house.

Dads That Don’t Give Up After Divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 28, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Divorce Married Life Money Parenting Single-Dad Spirituality

Sure, I believe my ex wants our kids to be healthy and happy. And somewhere she got in her mind that being the PRIMARY PARENT after the divorce was *in the best interest of the children.*

Moving from Parenting To Co-parenting: Joining Together In Divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 18, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life Money Parenting relationship building Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

But it's the kids who stand to lose the most from this imbalanced systemic approach. Dad is more than money. And mom is capable of making just as much money (let's table the fair pay discussion for the moment) as the dad. These old roles no longer fit the educated and compassionate couple. But the road to a good and healthy co-parenting plan is not a well-worn path.