Dating Archives

Dating is like a gateway drug. You’ve got to “date” in order to find a partner. If you are not clear on what you want in a relationship, dating is going to bring you a lot of people who are not ready, not available, and not very evolved. The goal of dating is to find someone to love.

For some, online dating is the gateway to finding someone who is outside of our normal spheres of influence. The first step is introductions. Then a few dates to see if you’re still compatible. And at some point, you’re going to declare each other as boyfriend and girlfriend. At that point, you are officially dating. Everything up to that is courtship and “hello dates.”

I’ve had success with online dating. I also see much of the online activity as a waste of time. If you’re not going out on “hello dates” you’re really just playing at the idea of dating. Find me somebody to love. Let’s get to a first date and see where things go. We can’t get to relationships unless we are testing and trying things while dating.

We want to keep improving with each dating experience. It takes time. There will be hits and misses along the dating journey. If you have a strategy you can work the dating system quicker to find better matches.

Six Real Benefits of Dating a Single Dad

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 14, 2019
Post category:Dating Divorce Self-care Sex Single-Dad

Dads understand parenting. Dads understand moms. Dads who are working at being good men are also looking to build a relationship on trust, vulnerability, and openness.

I Cannot Fix Your Broken Wings, I’m Still Repairing Mine

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 10, 2019
Post category:Anger Dating Depression Health and Fitness Love relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care Sex Spirituality

In a relationship that is not quite right, we (I am) are constantly on guard for things to begin going wrong. And either you work through those issues together or you don't. And if you don't you will be miserable trying to stay together. Better to move on.

Evolved Dating: 4 Ideas About Dating with Mindfulness

dating a single parent, dating a single dad

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 26, 2019
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

I do believe I am enough. I am practicing mindfulness and self-care in a way that encourages my own inner confidence. And, in my real measure of attractiveness, I'm really joyful.

Standing Strong Together: Boundaries and Relationships in the #METOO Era

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 21, 2019
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love Relationships Self-care

The dragon is your friend. The drama is your weakness. In using this process your blindspots become known dragons and can be tamed and befriended. You can then proceed to walk through life more like a dragon rider.

The Joyful Woman is Nearby, I’ve Seen Her

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 21, 2018
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Joy Relationships Single-Dad

Let's find the lighter path together. And if we find ourselves walking along it together, and continually renewing our intentions to get together again, maybe that's enough. I'm really ready for the "ready and centered" woman to show up.

A Good Dad’s Guide to Divorce – Now Available

a good dad's guide to divorce, by john mcelhenney

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 13, 2018
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness Love Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

And with children, the divorce is never final, your relationship to the other parent goes on as long as your kids are alive. You never get over your divorce, but you can get through it.

A Moment of Silence, Followed By… (checking-in on holiday depression)

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 12, 2018
Post category:Dating Depression Health and Fitness mindfulness Relationships Self-care Sex

Patience is not my nature, but it's probably my path forward. Jumping into a relationship that has big red flags is most definitely a path towards drama and disconnections.

Revealed Truths About Online Dating Apps (Online Dating Study)

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 8, 2018
Post category:Dating Joy Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

There's no time for a relationship initiation. But the game of online dating sure seems more active and more fun up here. And, now that this post is written, I will probably share it with any potential coffee meetups, just to give them the full picture of who I am.