Heading Into the Holidays with Intention and Joy
In my life, I have believed that I deserve to be loved with the same intensity and integrity that I am capable of. I have found a worthy recipient. The feeling is mutual.
Co-parenting is the process of becoming a partner with the other parent of your children. It begins the minute you discuss having children. The co-parenting agreement should span a lifetime, including what happens in the case of divorce. Start at 50/50 shared parenting? Agree to 50/50 shared parenting in divorce. Become great co-parents. Equals. Allies. Focused on your children and how you can support each other in the difficult journey ahead.
Even if your ex decides not to co-parent collaboratively with you, they are co-parenting, but in a negative way. You want what’s best for your children. You want a good co-parenting relationship. You want your kids to love you both. Weaponizing co-parenting is a toxic move. Stay positive. If you can’t co-parent nicely, then co-parent without negative inputs.
It only takes ONE PARENT to hold a positive post-divorce relationship. The enlightened parent can lessen the conflict at every stage of co-parenting. When I learned that positive only was the track I was on with my ex-wife, my co-parenting success was no longer tied to her poor behavior.
In my life, I have believed that I deserve to be loved with the same intensity and integrity that I am capable of. I have found a worthy recipient. The feeling is mutual.
Attachment parenting is the way to go. One parent, weaponizing the divorce, can do untold damage to the kids.
The news says men are not interested in getting married anymore. Can you understand why? Want a kid, sure let's have a kid. Marriage? Why?
It's hard to let them go. It's hard not to complain about their lack of response. But, the way forward is love and enthusiasm without strings.
If you can remove your emotional attachment to your ex you can begin to heal and move into your next chapter. The best years are ahead of you.
Deciding whether to divorce is a tough, complex, and controversial subject. There are no right or wrong answers, nor are there any simplistic solutions.
I am here. I am your dad. And I love you just as much now as I did the moment I helped you out of your mom's body. The best of our lives together is ahead of us.
I am still striving to find my patient and positive self. I work on my mindfulness, my affirmations, and my clear communication with my colleagues and family.