Orbiting a Dying Star: My Father the Alcoholic

As I continue my quest to be a healthier and happier parent, I can give my kids my own stories. I can share the adventures I've been on. I can hear their stories and not pass judgment. I am glad my daughter trusts me to share all the ways she's diving into the drinking culture.

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Why Some Fathers Give Up After Divorce

Yes, kids are expensive, but they should be equally shared as an expense and as a joy. This 70/30 split is bullshit. It's demeaning to fathers. And it's based on a parenting concept from the 50's. Sure it makes it easier on the courts if everyone just goes with the plan. But don't. If you want the time with your kids, fight for it.

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Understanding Anger: From My Dad >> Me >> My Ex-Wife >> My Kids

Anger is a slippery fish for me. My dad's anger was so pervasive and dangerous that none of my family members ever got a handle on how to deal with anger. Here are some of my issues/fears about anger.

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Happy Dad, Sad Dad, Angry Dad: Recapping The Whole Parent in 2021

Finding the Positive in 2021 was a challenge. And as we round the corner into the holidays, I'd like to recap my work for the year and see how my sentiment ran for the holistic side of The Whole Parent.

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When “In the Best Interest of the Children” is Weaponized

If you're going to have kids, I think both parents should agree to co-parent after divorce in the same manner that they agreed to co-parent as partners even before they have children.

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Going Meta: Breakups, Depression, and Befriending Sadness

I'm not perfect. I don't have the answer to this question of how to be happy all the time. But I am learning to see my emotions, my feelings, as something that are a part of me, but are not all of me. That's my meta-view.

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FREE 4-Week Bootcamp: Radical Steps To Find Your Partner

January 2022, we are going to kickoff a free Bootcamp to help you refine your goals, set intentions, and go out into the dating arena and take active and positive steps towards finding your next long-term relationship.

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