A Dad’s Path After Divorce Is Hard and Lonely
I lost everything in that moment. I lost my fighting spirit. I agreed to the Standard Possession Order (SPO) schedule and I agreed to let my wife be the custodial parent.
I lost everything in that moment. I lost my fighting spirit. I agreed to the Standard Possession Order (SPO) schedule and I agreed to let my wife be the custodial parent.
What you can do, is support your kids with all of your heart and mind. And, in this case, when the other parent poops out and is too self-absorbed, you can step in and be the solid presence in your kids' lives.
1. Focus on yourself and your health/ 2. Give your kids 110% of your available attention / 3. Shutdown the angry communications with your ex
My influence, now removed, will probably not be missed as they embark on the new adventure, VT, and starting 6th grade. I love you. I will never stop.
A good father would've made a big difference in my life. As a father, I have always strived to be a good father, even when the decisions were not always what I wanted.
In other words, 2 of the 5 people involved in our family system don't drink or smoke pot. That's a start.
I don't want to be an exhausted artist any more than I want to be a starving artist. Both are contraindications to happiness.
I'm happy. I'm proud. And I'm grateful for the divorce, 13 years ago, that allowed me to grow into the dad I am now.