The immediate plan is to continue growing, learning, and communicating with an ever-evolving sense of security and trust. Then, don't start talking about rings, living together, and retirement, until you've had a chance to go through at least one cycle of the seasons.
Let your kids go. Let your sons fall down and pick themselves back up. Let your loneliness be filled by someone other than your kids. Let your new partner into the starting lineup.
Seek 100%. Seek a fulfilled partner. Seek a mindful journey alongside another seeker. Be here now.
A relationship coach can Give you a sense of hope; Give you a taste of how a "relationship coach" works; Explain how coaching is more like a physical trainer and less like a therapist; Help you clarify your goals.
How do you find your community? Can you bring more creative energy to your life path? Do you know what things give you aspirational ideas? How can you begin to celebrate and nurture your own Alive Tribe?
Work on the feedback loop in all interactions with your partner. If you can get the core link between the two of you solid and healthy, you can move together towards a jointly-imagined horizon. Don't settle. Don't let things get off track. Always speak your truth.
Truth is a spiritual process. Not settling for half-truths is an acid test. And perhaps this "edge" will give me some insight and relief from burnout and anxiety.
Blessings to all of the amazingly gorgeous women and men out there. I know it's not easy for you. I hope you find your way to a balanced and healthy love. You deserve mutual respect and not just adoration.