My influence, now removed, will probably not be missed as they embark on the new adventure, VT, and starting 6th grade. I love you. I will never stop.
Alignment with our hearts and minds is only useful if there is heat to fuel your adventures together. Let's keep the fires burning, while jointly navigating the star maps. Our destination might be unknown, but our partnership gets more solid and joyful with each passing day we spend together.
If my friend is staying in the "dating" and "fooling around" mode, he's not going to gain any long-term insights.
And, as far as I can plan, I'm planning to go with my lover. Even my aspirational goals consider her. Happiness is far better when shared.
"That was amazing. I really loved the way you placed my hands and let me know you were going to come. I'm not worried about my orgasm. I'm happy to keep my fires stoked for the next encounter." Figuring sex out together.
As humans, we have the opportunity to get better at sex. To get more of what we want from our partnership.
I don't want to be an exhausted artist any more than I want to be a starving artist. Both are contraindications to happiness.