online dating advice

Online Dating Advice Index: Get Over Yourself

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 19, 2025
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

Don't give up. Just because all of your previous relationships have failed, does not mean that the next date might be The One.

The Hot Hot Heat Test: Dating 2.0 Bring the Heat

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 18, 2024
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love Poetry relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex sexual chemistry Spirituality

When sex enters a relationship everything changes and your thinking is going to be challenged for 6 months to a year. Don't trust your thoughts during this period. Don't make any big decisions together. If you get to two red flags, again, BOLT.

Booty, Boobs, and Booze: Online Dating Misfires

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 28, 2024
Post category:Dating Joy Love relationship building Relationships self-awareness sexual chemistry Single-Dad

Don't give up on love. It's out there. Make sure you're putting out a message that's going to attract the right people.

Getting Good At Blameless Breakups: Online Dating Challenges

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 31, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Love mindfulness Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

The goal is never to blame the other person for the breakup, even if they were the reason you are breaking up. Always take your responsibility for the miss. And make it about the chemistry, the mix, the overall relationship and not about them or their poor behavior. Remember, you are leaving the relationship, not trying to teach them a lesson or educate them.

Online Dating Apps: Do You Have the Time and Energy for Romance?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:December 3, 2021
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Joy Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

It's a long and exciting road towards the next romance in my life. The woman who I find has to be ready and energetic enough to keep up with me and my delusions of grandeur. And she will probably have delusions of her own.

Cracking Open the Heart of the Sky and Feeling Happy

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 2, 2021
Post category:Dating Divorce Health and Fitness Joy Love mindfulness relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

You've got to keep going. Your partner is out there. You've got to stay true to your path, true to your goals and boundaries, and give each person the flexibility to show up in your life and be a YES.

New Online Dating Survey Provides a Little Light and Misdirection

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 18, 2019
Post category:Dating Relationships Self-care Sex

If the chemistry is on and flowing both ways, you will both be asking "What's next." If it's not mutual, move on. You will not be able to build a fire without initial sparks. (But don't overlook the slow-burn. If you're "sort of" interested, perhaps a second date is in order.)

Get Healthy Before Dating: Avoiding Vengeance Dating

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 4, 2014
Post category:Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness Relationships Self-care Sex sexual chemistry Single-Dad

I am not willing to spend all of my free weeknights going for coffee with women that are marginally compatible. But back in the summer of escape velocity, I tried and tried and tried. It was exhausting.