When Divorce Negotiations Start at 70 – 30 Custody, the Kids Lose
When we started down the road of negotiating a cooperative divorce (because it's all about the children) our divorce and parenting plan counselor also suggested 70-30.
When we started down the road of negotiating a cooperative divorce (because it's all about the children) our divorce and parenting plan counselor also suggested 70-30.
To say that my ex-wife was unhappy when she found my anonymous blog over 12 years ago would be an understatement. At this point, our kids were in elementary and…
Marriage and parenting start at 50/50. Divorce should start at 50/50 without child support, and negotiate from there.
Attachment parenting is the way to go. One parent, weaponizing the divorce, can do untold damage to the kids.
I am still striving to find my patient and positive self. I work on my mindfulness, my affirmations, and my clear communication with my colleagues and family.
My kids would've gotten a better version of me. We would've stayed a bit closer as a family, even after I left, because the bills would all be split. And my house would've been just as comfortable as mom's house.
I have shown my children how to recover from a loss, and become happier, and more intentional in their lives.
Sure, I believe my ex wants our kids to be healthy and happy. And somewhere she got in her mind that being the PRIMARY PARENT after the divorce was *in the best interest of the children.*