Big D Energy: How Dad’s Can Do Better in Divorce
How is it possible that you don't care for or support your co-parent? How can that much anger be misdirected at the former love of your life?
How is it possible that you don't care for or support your co-parent? How can that much anger be misdirected at the former love of your life?
Every single blow against me is felt by our children.
Not everything needs to be worked out all the time. And, for the most part, I can trigger unhappy feelings for you, but the deep sadness or anger you feel, is probably not because of me.
My motto for dealing with my ex-wife and her anger: Focus on your children. Love your children.
Dads are equal parents. Some dads are deadbeat dads. Some moms are deadbeat moms. Some parents are assholes. Let's not be assholes to each other.
As our kids grow up, our past transgressions and lies will come back to haunt us. I don't think I've lied to them, other than the agreed upon lie (giving my wife the all-important cover) that the divorce was a mutual decision. It was not.
What I've got is my state of happiness and peace. I no longer fight with her about anything. I no longer ask her for anything. I keep my communications primarily with my kids. As far as I'm concerned, she's no longer the superpower she was.
Make things a little bit easier, by being kind and considerate to the other parent in your kids' lives. Love your kids enough to leave your ex in peace.