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This Very Moment… This Is It… Stop… Smell the Roses… Give Thanks.

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 10, 2022
Post category:Depression Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness Money relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

Stay in alignment with your goal. Make sure your goal is aligned with your purpose. And then notice when things are going right for you.

How Do You Suffer the Fools and Jerks in Your Life?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:April 28, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Married Life mindfulness Money Parenting relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

She still cannot see how planting discontent on my kids towards me is hurting them more than it's hurting us. She is actively damaging her own relationship with her kids over MONEY.

Universe Says: FULL STOP

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:April 26, 2022
Post category:Anger Depression Divorce Health and Fitness mindfulness Parenting Self-care Spirituality

It's been the most intense and transformative month of my young 55-year-old life. I felt at times like my skin was being burnt away by the velocity of the change underway. The pace of change, conflict, resolution, conflict, opportunity, and so on, was exhausting. I stopped drinking coffee because I didn't need any stimulants. I adjusted my psyche meds to reduce activation.

My Hierarchy of Needs Revisited: The Short List of Happiness

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:April 11, 2022
Post category:Depression Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

Process the stuff that hurts. And, for me, stop eating to heal those hurts. Just get them out in other ways. Writing about them can help, indeed.

Overwhelmed and Out of Balance: Finding Your Inner Chill

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 27, 2022
Post category:Dating Depression Health and Fitness mindfulness self-awareness Self-care

A few good INHALE and EXHALE moments, can really bring the pause back into my life. From the pause I can examine several things.

The Company You Keep and Keeping Your Own Company

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 25, 2022
Post category:Depression Health and Fitness Joy Love mindfulness Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

I can ask to be loved. I may not feel loved even when love is abundant and specific. I might still miss some aspect of being loved. I might not feel loved, even in the presence of love. And, I can want someone else to meet my needs for love and connection, while not doing a very good job of being clear about what I need. Today, I didn't ask anyone. Today, I took care of my desire to go to the beach. September might not be summer, but it's beachy enough for me and my inner smile.

This Creative Life: A Lifelong Adventure into The Artist’s Way

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 19, 2022
Post category:mindfulness Poetry self-awareness Self-care Spirituality

Don't let a single idea pass unnoticed. If you can capture the essence of the idea in some form, some shorthand version of your vision, then capture it. If you can stop everything else you are doing and allow the creative gift to come through you, do it. Stop. Listen. Create.