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In the Birthday Cake of the Present Moment You Have Three Choices

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 8, 2020
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If we can rise above our present distress and the distractions of our disappointments, we can appreciate all the layers of the present moment. It's all cake. It may not all be delicious. But our attitude about the cake colors every one of our present moments. It's our attitude about the cake we're being served that gives us the freedom from suffering.

The Inner Life of Your Kid: Navigating Our Own Rainy Fridays

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 17, 2020
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We're all walking down our own little hallways. We're all singing our inner songs. And we're probably all a bit distracted and unsure of exactly where we should go. We know the way to our homeroom. We may not be sure about how to navigate the rainy Fridays along the way.

The Art of Indifference After Divorce: Letting Go With Intention

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:December 5, 2019
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What I've got is my state of happiness and peace. I no longer fight with her about anything. I no longer ask her for anything. I keep my communications primarily with my kids. As far as I'm concerned, she's no longer the superpower she was.

What Dads Fear Most About Divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 10, 2019
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I don't have to get it right, here, or anywhere. Somedays I'm angry about the divorce. Other days, I see how my ex-wife released me from her sphere of influence, and for this I am grateful.

80% of Single Moms Will Never Understand a Single Dad’s Struggle

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 5, 2019
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As my divorce went down, in Texas, in 2010, my ex-wife got the typical family law package. The call it the SPO or standard possession order, and it specifies the…

Self-Care and Appreciation: Can I Love All of Myself Right Now?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 19, 2019
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In this day I release my ex-wife. I release my two lovely children from any frustration I have at not being able to book time on their busy teenager calendars. I release myself from my expectations of where I would be at this point in my adult life.

More Self-Care, Less Rush Rush Stress and Anxiety

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 23, 2019
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Go easy on yourself when you're not at your best. A lot of people are not at their best today. A lot of people never reach 110% velocity. Give thanks that you can get so high on life, and chill out when you fall below the uber-winning beast mode that makes you feel so excited.