Wayfinding In Love: Listening to What Is Emerging In Your Relationship

Let's be clear with each other about what we want, what we fantasize about, and what we do not want. Only with that data can we make better and more informed decisions about where to go in our partnership.

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The Beauty Trap: How Good Looks Can Lead Us Astray

I could lose myself again, and miss the disconnects that ultimately derailed both my marriages. And whether I get married again or not, is not even relevant. All I have is this time, this moment, and today I am happily plodding along, in spite of the beauty trap

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Six Rules of Online Dating: Mathematics of Beauty (OkCupid Study)

I'd really like to spend my every other Saturday nights wrapped around a lovely and articulate woman. I'm hopeful that I can get my roll right and that eventually, the numbers will come up in my favor. 

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Dating 2.0: Enticing and Keeping the Next Love of Your Life?

If there's an imbalance in the first weeks or months of the relationship, there are going to be bigger issues as you move deeper into the choppy waters of real relationship building.

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Why Add Alcohol to Your Mix and Match Relationship Quest?

So alcohol is a bit like sex. It clouds your judgment. It allows you to overlook some of the red flags that might be obvious if you were sober. In my plans, I want to meet my partner in a truthy place.

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