Becoming a Parent for the First Time: Everything Changes

Dads give their kids different qualities. Dads play differently. Dads love differently. But the assumption that the mom is the emotional center of the family and the dad is the financial engine is outdated and unfair to both the kids and the dad.

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Reflecting on the 10 Years as a Whole Parent: 50/50 Shared Parenting Vision

My kids would've gotten a better version of me. We would've stayed a bit closer as a family, even after I left, because the bills would all be split. And my house would've been just as comfortable as mom's house.

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Why Do Ex-Wives Feel Entitled? And Ex-Husbands Feel Victimized?

You can't have kids by yourself. Your partner is just as important. Why would it be different when you no longer live together?

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Risking Everything In Love: We’re Not Playing Games

BOTH partners need to be willing, have intentionality towards building a sustainable relationship, and then have the TIME to spend building the WE.

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Moving from Parenting To Co-parenting: Joining Together In Divorce

But it's the kids who stand to lose the most from this imbalanced systemic approach. Dad is more than money. And mom is capable of making just as much money (let's table the fair pay discussion for the moment) as the dad. These old roles no longer fit the educated and compassionate couple. But the road to a good and healthy co-parenting plan is not a well-worn path.

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