Why Some Fathers Give Up After Divorce

Yes, kids are expensive, but they should be equally shared as an expense and as a joy. This 70/30 split is bullshit. It's demeaning to fathers. And it's based on a parenting concept from the 50's. Sure it makes it easier on the courts if everyone just goes with the plan. But don't. If you want the time with your kids, fight for it.

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Happy Dad, Sad Dad, Angry Dad: Recapping The Whole Parent in 2021

Finding the Positive in 2021 was a challenge. And as we round the corner into the holidays, I'd like to recap my work for the year and see how my sentiment ran for the holistic side of The Whole Parent.

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When “In the Best Interest of the Children” is Weaponized

If you're going to have kids, I think both parents should agree to co-parent after divorce in the same manner that they agreed to co-parent as partners even before they have children.

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In All Cases Be Kind, Unless You Can’t Then Be Assertive

There is a fine line in relationships between being passive, being assertive, and being aggressive. Even in each of these three energies, you can be kind.

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Understanding My Co-parent’s Malfunction: My Easy Indifference

I'm sorry for this post, ahead of writing it. I have been weaning myself off of my "divorce" rant for some years. This year, I've even started slowing my coaching…

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Always Being the Better Man: Dads In Divorce Leading with Love

And when things don't go in our favor, even when we are not given 50/50 parenting, it is still our responsibility as men, to lead from a position of love and strength.

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80% of Single Moms Will Never Understand a Single Dad’s Struggle

As my divorce went down, in Texas, in 2010, my ex-wife got the typical family law package. The call it the SPO or standard possession order, and it specifies the…

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Single Dad Survival Guide: “Dear Step Dad” Let’s Cooperate

As divorced parents with kids we all need to work together to support the system. I am not part of his family system, but he is part of my family system. I suppose in his mind they do not overlap. He is incorrect. He is also an ass.

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