But I'm curious, for a population in their 40s - 50s, with "families" already established if the sexual drive is more similar in men and women? Do we both enjoy the sexual thoughts that come from people watching? Aren't we essentially doing the same thing? Asking that tried and true question of our inexperienced, and pre-family youth, "Would ya do them?"
"You didn't cause it, you can't cure it, and you can't change it." Focus on yourself and what's inside your hula hoop.
Take your time. Find what turns you on. Make sure you know what you want and what you bring to a new relationship. Then, HAVE FUN.
Getting into a relationship with a willing and joyful partner is only the first step. Building a relationship from scratch is about communication, negotiation, and conflict resolution.
I'm developing a relationship with myself and I will eventually believe that I am loveable. And so will you. And anyone that takes that glow away from you is not worthy of your gifts.
I don't want a relationship with the 20-something in my cardio tennis workout, but I can appreciate her. It's as simple as that.
Give your partner the ravishing they are longing for and you might get your connection needs met at the same time. A win-win.
Let's have better sex out there. Maybe not MORE ORGASMS, but definitely MORE SEX.