Finding the Kindness In All of Life
As a co-parent to a narcissistic is has not been easy. In most of the negotiations, I was given no chance to be on top.
Pause in the Gap: Trying to Force An Answer Is Not the Way
If you can pause and consider the gap when you feel frustrated or impatient, you can tune in to your own feelings more accurately. And if you give your partner the opportunity to fill the gap you may learn something you didn't know, and something you couldn't have learned had you continued to be a gap crasher.
Weaponization of Divorce: Moms v. Dads = Kids Lose
Something about my celebration of my kids, my ability to house them while it was my weekend, caused my ex-wife more fury.
I Am Not the Problem in the Co-parenting Relationship, We Are
I am sad sometimes that I no longer have a partner and cheerleader in navigating these difficult times. But that role/relationship ended several years before the marriage did. And now I have two fabulous kids and their mom.
Always Being the Better Man: Dads In Divorce Leading with Love
And when things don't go in our favor, even when we are not given 50/50 parenting, it is still our responsibility as men, to lead from a position of love and strength.
Getting My Divorced Dad Weekend with My Kids: Father’s Rights in Divorce
My ex-wife screwed me in the divorce and she and the therapist that setup our 70/30 parenting plan knew it. They were not basing their plans on science, but on "what's best for the kids" mythology that has been perpetuated since my parents got a divorce 49 years ago.
Divorce Lessons: 8 Critical Choices In Making a Positive Split
Nobody wins in a divorce, but we can keep either side from losing if we stay present and positive in the coming months of negotiation and planning.
Embracing the Win in My 12-years As a Single Dad
Once I took my own anger out of the communication loop I began to heal and move on to the next stage.