The Approaching Storm Before the Divorce: It Wasn’t One Thing

I'll stay out of her business and assessing her state of mind. But there's a good bit of the story that is left out when I take this repose about my divorce. It was a good thing given the toxic circumstances of my crumbling marriage. So in that respect, yes, she did us all a favor. But let's dig a bit deeper to see where things went foul.

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A Rebirth of the Compassionate Parent & Divorced Dad Advocate

I had the pleasure of taking a friend's child to school a few weeks ago. I was humbled by the feelings I felt walking through the elementary school halls with…

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Own Your Pain, Leave the Rest Alone: Relationship Building Skills

The trick in keeping your relationship vibrant and healthy, is to micro correct towards each other, towards the join between you. By showing your partner you are willing to own and handle the little issues that come up during the course of a week, you are giving them assurances that you can do the same over the longer trajectory of your relationship.

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Finding My Authentic Self: Can You See the Real Me?

I am lovable just as I am. I am lovable with brown hair or grey hair. I am loved at my current weight and even when I'm heavier. I am loved just as I am. I am not sure I believe all of what I just wrote, but I'm on my own journey to get there.

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The War on Divorcing Fathers: Deadbeat Dad Accusations Are Abusive

My ex-wife knows I am paying and will continue to pay my child support until my daughter turns 18. She wants to keep me under the thumb of the "enforcement" of Title IV-D because hurting me gives her pleasure.

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Fear of Being Alone, Again – Humans of Divorce

I loved the family routine. I loved being their dad. I knew I was going to crash when I was no longer welcome in my own home. I knew depression was weeks away. I knew there was very little I could do to stop the sadness freight train that is divorce.

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The Struggles and Fears About Divorce: Humans of Divorce

When I get in a tough place I try and picture my kid's faces. In the moment I am feeling upset, I can send them a "How's it going, I love you" text. I can SnapChat a silly face.

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