I have a reverence of my moods these days. I am no longer beholden to them. I can love these former lovers and still do nothing to reach out to them. I am pointed in a healthier and happier dream now.
When you are waiting for the other person to change (at any stage of a relationship or marriage) it might be time for you to move on.
When someone is really available they have time, they make time, and they bring their own ideas to the party of planning our journey together.
I have shown my children how to recover from a loss, and become happier, and more intentional in their lives.
I'm developing a relationship with myself and I will eventually believe that I am loveable. And so will you. And anyone that takes that glow away from you is not worthy of your gifts.
BOTH partners need to be willing, have intentionality towards building a sustainable relationship, and then have the TIME to spend building the WE.
If we can see and seek the balanced parenting approach we might be able to continue that holistic love even as the marriage comes apart.
We are complex individuals with independent lives, building bridges and rope swings between our two countries, but we're reconnecting and recommitting in each moment, each day. We seek new ways around common disagreements, new ways to navigate old ghosts that can haunt us from previous relationships.