Removing Connections: Giving Up On Closure
Maybe we would feel something. Perhaps we would experience regret, joy, sadness, and other deep feelings. It's okay not to want to dip back into it.
Maybe we would feel something. Perhaps we would experience regret, joy, sadness, and other deep feelings. It's okay not to want to dip back into it.
Now that they are mostly out of their mom's house they have a bit more autonomy of thought. And when she throws a shitty bomb in between us, we can usually identify the *bs* and choose to not bite.
When divorce is amicable there's a chance for equal parenting. When a divorce starts with Dads getting 30% of the time and 100% of the expenses there is little incentive for moms to be fair.
If you navigate a positive divorce, perhaps it will be happier and better for everyone. Plan for happiness and build a parenting schedule that will value BOTH mom and dad equally.
I believe if you parented together you should continue that loving and inclusive process even if you're no longer married to one another.
I have a reverence of my moods these days. I am no longer beholden to them. I can love these former lovers and still do nothing to reach out to them. I am pointed in a healthier and happier dream now.
I have shown my children how to recover from a loss, and become happier, and more intentional in their lives.
If we can see and seek the balanced parenting approach we might be able to continue that holistic love even as the marriage comes apart.