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Divorce with Kids: The Golden Rule – It’s About Time Not Money

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 3, 2023
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

If you put your kids first you may need to fight to get what you want. And by putting your kids first, sometimes you may have to fight their mom. But to be the best dad you can be, you have to be there, you have to spend time with your kids. All of that time that was taken away is now water under the bridge, but today it's much more clear for me. I take every offer to have the kids an extra night or to support my ex when she has to work late.

When Divorce Negotiations Start at 70 – 30 Custody, the Kids Lose

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 21, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

When we started down the road of negotiating a cooperative divorce (because it's all about the children) our divorce and parenting plan counselor also suggested 70-30.

Burning Down the House of Love and Hope

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 2, 2022
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Love Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

We can hold on, we can fight/struggle/counsel to make things work. We can sacrifice so many aspects of our lives to try and keep the marriage together. And in this sublimation, we can become separated from our own inner truth, our own listening and responding heart, as we try and compromise and grow and hope for the eventual LOVE we believe will heal us.

Inviting the Dinosaur In: Weaponizing Child Support

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 27, 2021
Post category:burn Co-Parenting Divorce Money Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

I have been employed or working under contract for most of the time since the divorce. And today I'm gearing up to start a new job so that I can get some money, but more importantly so that my kids will get some money. And yes, the dinosaur will be fed and happy in the next month.