What I do with that free time is up to my energy and my motivation. The best part, is I am feeling no pressure to be super-creative, or super-productive. I am content.
I want what is best for my physical and mental health. I also want to perform my work at a high level. I take advantage of every opportunity to make a positive adjustment to my energetic trajectory.
Let's align around all the things that can help, and do ALL OF THEM. Why not? What do you have to lose? 5-minutes a day? Go for it.
The more efficient you get at processing these blips of emotion or moods, the easier it becomes to live in the space between the incoming brain broadcast, and the easier it becomes to remain in the present moment.
Pay attention to your mind. When the monkey mind jumps into gear, try and find a moment to observe your thinking, as if you are an observer. Then decide: do I want to continue this runaway train of thought, or should I focus on something that I can actually have an effect on?
Process the stuff that hurts. And, for me, stop eating to heal those hurts. Just get them out in other ways. Writing about them can help, indeed.
We can hold on, we can fight/struggle/counsel to make things work. We can sacrifice so many aspects of our lives to try and keep the marriage together. And in this sublimation, we can become separated from our own inner truth, our own listening and responding heart, as we try and compromise and grow and hope for the eventual LOVE we believe will heal us.
It is time to evaluate all of the relationships in your life and set boundaries and priorities with each of them. Some people will need to be removed.