80% of Single Moms Will Never Understand a Single Dad’s Struggle

As my divorce went down, in Texas, in 2010, my ex-wife got the typical family law package. The call it the SPO or standard possession order, and it specifies the…

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Parenting Lesson: Always Consider Lightening Your Kid’s Load

The complications in a teenaged boy's life are many. Dad's love should not be another complication. I am here for him. And I can chill out a bit on my outreach. He knows I'm here. I have always been here.

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When Divorce Negotiations Start at 70 – 30 Custody, the Kids Lose

When we started down the road of negotiating a cooperative divorce (because it's all about the children) our divorce and parenting plan counselor also suggested 70-30.

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Your Kids Are Watching How You Cope with Divorce

I can let go of my side of the problem, right now. And that's my healing. My ex-wife, she's got her own road ahead. I no longer have to take her inventory. I can let her sail her own boat without my input or dependence.

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Field Notes for My Next Marriage (Remember This Before Getting Married)

I do intend to marry again. I love the idea. I love being married. And while the first two didn't work out as planned, I have new information and a stronger resolve to be a lifelong partner in the same way I expect my next lover to be.

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How a Balanced Divorce Would Have Better Served My Children

We could've separated and agreed to a 50/50 parenting and 50/50 custody schedule as I requested. That was more in keeping with the way we parented. But it did not match up with my then-wife's objectives. Those "options" she learned about from the attorney, rather than the options about staying in the relationship she could've learned in the couple's therapy.

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Connecting with Teenagers One at a Time on Their Terms, Always

I'm a single dad who wants as close a relationship as I can have with my two kids. They've got their own agendas, their own friends, and their own problems. I'm simply here to offer my companionship and support.

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