Letting Go Of Being Happy
Why would someone attempt to mess with the relationship between her kids and their father? Still? 13 years later?
Why would someone attempt to mess with the relationship between her kids and their father? Still? 13 years later?
If you put your kids first you may need to fight to get what you want. And by putting your kids first, sometimes you may have to fight their mom. But to be the best dad you can be, you have to be there, you have to spend time with your kids. All of that time that was taken away is now water under the bridge, but today it's much more clear for me. I take every offer to have the kids an extra night or to support my ex when she has to work late.
It's going to get easier. You are going to be okay. Your kids are going to be okay. And, at some point in the future, you're going to look back on this event (the divorce) as one of the defining moments in your life. Act well. Learn to lean into the process of becoming a single parent.
Learn to love your anger and what it is teaching you about yourself, your past, and how you want to move forward in the future.
If either participant becomes too overwhelmed (anger, sadness, hopelessness) it's time to take a break.
She still sets our family on fire. Someday, she will either burn herself up or attain enlightenment.
What I do best in life is love. And that I have been given a gift for sharing that experience via writing and music, is one of the major wins in my life. This new lease on love is another. May you find what you were looking for. May you find the happiness that comes from within so you can share it with others. The divorce gave me back my joy and freedom and allowed me a second chance to find life-long love.
Always respect the other parent. Keep fathers in their kids' lives by giving them half a chance to maintain that relationship. The same chance you have.