Spirituality Archives

Nostalgia Can Be a Toxic Impulse

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 5, 2023
Post category:Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Love Parenting self-awareness Single-Dad Spirituality

Don't get caught up in nostalgia that doesn't inform or help you. When you find you're moping in the sadness of nostalgic regret, change the channel.

In Moments of Great Stress What Are Your Comforts?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 4, 2023
Post category:Co-Parenting Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Money Parenting relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

What makes your life worth living? How can you define the parts of your life you'd like to lean into more as you get more time?

I’m Still the Little Kid Who Wants to be Loved

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Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 3, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Married Life Parenting Single-Dad Spirituality

When I get out of balance in life, I usually struggle with one of these EPIC issues: money kids love. These three areas are pressure points when things get stressful.

I Love You, Dad

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 3, 2023
Post category:Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness Married Life Parenting Spirituality

And at that moment, I also felt the joy of my father's love upon me. He might have left the planet 15 years ago, but his love is still within me. And each time I can really hear and connect with my own kids, my heart lights up with a little bit more healing of my 5-year-old self, my wounded little boy.

Experience, Strength, and Hope After a Divorce with Kids

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 2, 2023
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life Money Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

It's going to get easier. You are going to be okay. Your kids are going to be okay. And, at some point in the future, you're going to look back on this event (the divorce) as one of the defining moments in your life. Act well. Learn to lean into the process of becoming a single parent.

Starting at Zero: Relationship Basics for the Newly Single

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 2, 2023
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

As long as we are getting closer, and we are learning from our relationship mistakes, we can pick ourselves up after a breakup, knowing that we gave 100%. And, more importantly, we are closer and better equipped for the next potential partner that agrees to join us in "the arena."

This Feels Like Letting Go: A Moody Moment with Storms and Sunshine

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 27, 2023
Post category:Dating Depression humans of divorce relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

I can forgive and still love each of these women in their various states of disrepair. I can walk away knowing I brought my best game into their lives. I can walk away with my heart still on my sleeve, because that's how I go through life. And I can refind my hopefulness.