What the Bear in Your Bed Might Be Telling You: Managing Anxiety
I don't suffer from anxiety a lot, but in the past week, I've found myself on several nights wrestling with a bear. Here is what the bear was telling me.…
The Hierarchy of Relationship Needs: My Four Levels of Attraction
I will not settle for average and I hope you will not either. Average will get you down the road a bit, but it's not the lasting relationship you are looking for. That's one of the reasons dating can be difficult. We don't want to be alone so we might go on a lot of average dates.
Sexual Hunger: How Friends with Benefits Became a Lie for Me
Alone, I am still somewhat of a hungry animal. I contemplate calling my recent ex more frequently than I'd like to imagine. It's a similar story to my previous relationship. Perhaps we can just get our physical needs met without worrying too much about the relationship or the future.
Going Meta: Divorce, Depression, and Befriending Sadness
I'm not perfect. I don't have the answer to this question of how to be happy all the time. But I am learning to see my emotions, my feelings, as something that are a part of me, but are not all of me. That's my meta-view.
Relationships at the Speed of Life: On Becoming a Couple Together
I'm a handful. I'm whimsical. I'm capricious. I have a lot of irons in the fire. And, sure, I demand a woman with a high level of confidence and well-seasoned experience in relationship building. We've got to both be into the evolution of becoming a couple.
A Radical Approach to Joy
Joy is different from happiness. Happiness is fleeting. Joy is innate. I believe we have set points, but not of happiness, of joy. I know that even in moments of…
Just Because You Feel It, Doesn’t Mean It’s There
I am leaving my feelings alone by choice. I am seeing them as separate from who I am. My feelings are just a part of me. There are many other parts. When I am healthy, I can see the other parts of my life and focus my attention on something other than the feelings.
Letting Go of Those We Love
Love deeply. Live deeply. And when you lose someone, go on loving as deeply as you can. In the case of my brother, I will go on loving him as he becomes a spirit.
