Defining the Deadbeat Mom
The deadbeat mom uses the custodial system and family law to not only get what she wants but to damage her ex-partner in the process.
Parenting is the biggest adventure you can set in motion. By becoming parents you are agreeing to give a priority to your children, over yourself. The sacrifice of becoming a parent is about making a better life for our kids.
- Dad vs. Moms: We’re All #Parents or #SingleParents
- Dear Ex, We Are Different By Design
- Moving from WE to US: How Becoming Parents Grows Our Love – Episode 8
- Bad Habits We’re Supposed To Outgrow As We Become Parents
- The Prayer for All Single Parents (downloadable)
- The Blurry Lines Between Divorced Parents: Entitlement & Narcissism
- The Joy of Young Parents
- The Love Hurricane: Becoming Parents
- Love All Parents: The Single Parent’s Manifesto
As parents, our relationship may not work out. In divorce, we’ve got an opportunity to remain connected as a cooperative co-parent. Our role as divorced parents is to support our kids with less concern for ourselves or our disappointment in our ex-partner. It is important to leave your anger and frustration behind, and pay attention to your kids and their needs.
Prayer for All Single Parents, and Especially My Co-parent: Humans of Divorce
Anger is energy. Learn to deal with it and channel it towards something you want. Any anger directed back at your ex is anger that will return to you ten-fold when you are in dire need of support. So a prayer. Our kids are a gift. My ex is blameless in her journey forward, and it is in my best interest to support her and the kids with everything I've got.
Displacement: A Single-Parenting Love Story
Here's what that looks like. About 2 - 3 times a year, they freeze my bank accounts. I call them. They ask how much money is in the accounts. (As if they don't know.) Then they take 50% of everything I have. And in the course of the next few days, my banks will unfreeze the rest of the money. Effectively, I am left with zero dollars.
The Damage of An Angry Co-Parent
She got the house, the kids, and the money. She played nice for about a year and a half. Then she got greedy. She didn't like my new prosperity and happiness.
Dads After Divorce: Never Give Up (But) Do Stop Fighting
As we move forward as "this half" of the family, I am certain that my best time with my kids is ahead of me. And that's all the good news you need to hear today. Keep going.
The Courage to Change the Things I Can
My actions and words are all I can control. My goal is to always do my best. And give everyone around me their own agency to make plans, change plans, and find their own way forward.
The Inner Life of Your Kid: Navigating Our Own Rainy Fridays
We're all walking down our own little hallways. We're all singing our inner songs. And we're probably all a bit distracted and unsure of exactly where we should go. We know the way to our homeroom. We may not be sure about how to navigate the rainy Fridays along the way.
Getting In The Last Word/Text “Whatever”
In middle school my daughter would often call me during the school day saying she could not reach her mom, or get a call back, for something required for a field trip. I would make the call.